There's a fun game of cognitive dissonance many of us play when it comes to messes in our apartment. For me, it's something of an object permanence issue: As a child, I briefly believed that I turned invisible when I closed my eyes, and as an adult, I tend to treat rooms I'm not looking at as a problem for Future Michelle.
Take, for example, the spare bedroom in my first apartment. It was going to become an office "once I got around to it," but in the meantime, I used it as storage – where "storage" translates roughly to "place I put random junk." This seemed like a sustainable model for maybe a month. I admitted it was a problem at three months, at which point I closed the door and resolved to "dedicate a weekend to it."
I pretty much ignored the room for the remainder of my lease, thinking of it only when I pushed the door open to toss in some other item for which I had no real use. Each visit back into my spare bedroom filled me with an increasing sense of dread, slightly hampered by a noncommittal promise to myself to declutter it as soon as I could.
Now I live in a much smaller apartment, and every time I agonize over my lack of space, I mentally kick myself for not taking advantage of what I once had. For those who are currently living with a room of shame, there is hope – here's some advice for getting to the other side of your mess:
You can't deal with a problem until you acknowledge it's there. Maybe you've already done this, deep down in your heart, but you've been pretending things are fine: They're not. Things have snuck up on you, and now the room is totally out of control. Admit that it's time to take back your life.
Even the strongest people can't take on everything alone. Ask your closest (and least judgmental) friends to help you handle your disaster room. Depending on whether your mess has been in or out of sight, you may need to admit your problem to them as you have to yourself. There's a good chance they'll tell you it's not that bad. They're probably being polite, but you'll feel better about it anyway.
If things have gotten completely out of hand, consider hiring a professional organizer. Not only will this person be able to help you declutter the room, but he or she will empower you to avoid clutter in the future.
Unless you have a ton of storage space somewhere that you've been ignoring in favor of your room of shame, the odds are good you're going to be throwing a lot of stuff away. Come up with three piles – keep, donate, and toss – and get heartless with your junk. Unless something has serious sentimental value, get rid of it if you haven't used or looked at it in the last year.
Figure out what you're going to do with the things you keep. Maybe you already have some designated places for these items that you just haven't been using. If not, you'll need to figure out where everything goes – don't fall into the "I'll just stick it here" trap that got you into this mess in the first place.
It's easier said than done, I know. Clear a day or two out of your schedule and formally announce that these are the days you're working. Take pictures of the disaster before you start to clean, and if you're feeling particularly brave post them online. Adding a caption, "After pic to come," will give you plenty of motivation to follow through.
You may need to block out additional slots of time after the Big Day to do a finer sorting of your items. For example, you might find a place to put all your random documents and letters when you're cleaning, but you should also spend some time actually organizing the papers themselves. That said, feel free to post your "after" picture once the room looks great.
Once you're all done, bask in the glory of your own achievements. Smile at all the comments your friends and family left on your after pic. Invite people over and experience the pure joy of hearing, "Wow, your apartment is so well-organized! I wish mine looked like this." Sit alone in your apartment and marvel at how much space you suddenly have. This is your time. Enjoy it.