There are plenty of good reasons for living with your parents during adulthood — saving money, having extra support, etc. But after a while, you may start to wonder if you should move out of your parents house or if it's time to leave the nest and live on your own.
When you're living with your parents, it's their house and, therefore, their rules. And as an adult, it's nice to do things the way you want, which might motivate you to change your living arrangements. But there are other signs that might make you question "Should I move out of my parents house?" Here are a few to consider.
One of the perks of being an adult is deciding when you come home after an evening out. However, your parents still worry about you when you're out, even if you can take care of yourself. For that reason, they may give you a curfew. They also probably don't want to be woken up at all hours of the night when you stumble through the front door.
People don't like free-loaders and your parents are no exception. They probably wanted to help you out by letting you save some money in the beginning. But if they've begun charging you rent, you should take the hint that they think you're taking advantage of them and it's time to move out.
You might still be sleeping in the same cartoon-covered sheets and looking at the same posters of your favorite singers as you did when you were 12. While we're all fans of Hilary Duff and Aaron Carter, it's probably time to find somewhere that doesn't make you feel like a child in the '90s again.
Are you the older sibling that's living at home, while your younger siblings have flown the coop? It's not a great position to be in and if you're ever in an argument with the sibs about who's better, there's a pretty good chance they'll throw your living arrangements in your face to win the fight.
Living at home likely means your parents make you help out around the house. After all, it's only fair that you contribute to the chores of the place you live. But by this point, you shouldn't be checking the chore chart that your parents' and siblings names are on.
Many of those who live with their parents do so because they don't have regular, reliable income. So, if you do have one and you can afford to live somewhere else, you probably should.
Looking at your peers and the friends you interact with on a daily basis can give you a pretty good benchmark of where you should be in life. And if your friends aren't living with their parents, it's a good indicator that you should be packing up and heading out.
Your parents might constantly nag or ask about your personal life when you're hanging out at home. But even if they're not, chilling with your parents probably isn't the thing you want to do every day and you may find yourself avoiding the house whenever you can.
Washing, drying and putting away your clothes is fairly simple. Most adults have been doing their own laundry since they finished high school. It's a pretty low bar and if your parents are still doing your laundry for you, it's time to end that cycle.
Inviting a date over to your place when you live with your parents is the last thing anyone wants to do. And, let's be honest, admitting to the fact that you live at home while on a date is a little embarrassing in the first place.
Being asked "where are you off to?" each time you're ready to head out the door is a little annoying. You're an adult and you shouldn't have to answer to your parents. But if you're living in their house, you owe at least that much to them.
While it seems like a dream to have someone cook all of your meals, it won't feel that way to your mother who is doing all the cooking. You're an adult and you should be cooking your own meals in a kitchen that doesn't belong to your parents.
When you're feeling extra sick or have something weird going on with your body and need to see a doctor, you should be making the call to set up your appointment. Plus, if your mom is making the appointment for you, you'll need to give her some context about why you're going, which can be really uncomfortable in some cases.
Your parents care about you and want to make sure you're doing alright. But they might actually feel bad for you if you're still living at home and go the extra mile to make sure you're OK, which can easily make you feel like they never leave you alone.
We've all had those times when dad teases, "Don't you have anything better to do on a Friday night than sit at home and watch TV? You should be out having fun!" That was funny when it only happened every so often in high school. But now it's a true encouragement, since you've stayed in every weekend for the last four months.
Your parents don't want to kick you out of your bedroom whenever a guest comes to stay the night, but the truth is, they were planning to turn your bedroom into the guest room years ago. And since you've ruined those plans for them, they have no other choice but to push you to the couch for a few nights when you have company.
Being around family as an adult is fine — just not for too long. When you're around them 24/7, it's easy to pick up on their bad habits (just as they notice yours) and be bothered by them constantly. This can trigger fights and bring on a whole slew of negative emotions, which is never fun to deal with.
Not all parents want or allow pets in their house. If you want to get a new puppy and your parents aren't too keen on the idea, you'll have to move out and find a new place for you and Fido to live.
Water and electricity aren't free, despite what you might believe while living at home. If your parents are paying all the bills and you've never seen one in your life, it's time for a reality check.
Living with your parents when you're in your 20s is forgivable for a variety of reasons. But once you've hit 30, it's not as acceptable. By that point, you should be living on your own.
As great as your parents are, it's OK to spend time with other people. In fact, it's highly encouraged. Spending Friday night playing Boggle with mom and dad shouldn't be the default.
A fun part about being an adult is entertaining and having friends over. But that's a lot harder to do when you need to get permission from your parents. Not to mention that you'll have to tell your friends the place you've invited them to is actually your parent's house.
Your parents should only know as much as you tell them about your life, not necessarily what you're doing at every hour of each day. But they're bound to know a lot more than you tell them, whether you like it or not.
When you're not living within a reasonable distance to the office, you're essentially losing time that could be spent doing other things. Sitting in the car for an hour to get to work, then another hour to get home means you've lost out on nearly two hours of your day. It's time to find something closer to work so you can use your time for things you really enjoy.
If your parents have told you point-blank that it's time to move out, that's about as clear of a sign as you're going to get.
If you're ready to move on and get out of your parents' house, here are a few basic steps to get you going.
Getting started is usually the hardest part, so once you've done that, you're well on your way to finding your own place!
Leaving the home you've lived in your whole life can be a little scary, but it's also rewarding. You'll learn things you never did before and figure out how to be an independent, fully-functioning and thriving adult. And if you do miss your family, you can always visit them!