Picking up and moving to a new city or new home can be hard for everyone in a family, but especially tough for children. Kids enjoy structure, and change can be difficult. Make moving easier for your children by trying some of these tips geared for families on the move.
Keep the conversation going
Surprises aren’t always fun. They can be scary, so it’s important to keep your kids informed about an impending move throughout the entire process. You don’t need to bog them down with stressful details about hiring movers and finding a new home. Instead, help your children prepare with clear information about the structure of your move. When will it happen? Where will you be moving to? What will the neighborhood and the schools be like?
Knowing some specifics should help your kids feel less anxious about the move and more prepared for a change in their routine. You can also use a little moving psychology to ask your children what their fears are about moving or to find out what are they looking forward to. If you build a good dialogue about the topic of moving, your kids won’t be afraid to ask questions when they come up.
Give kids a sneak peek
In addition to talking about your upcoming move, you should show your kids what their new home will be like. If you are moving to a new home in the same city, drive by your new place and show them the amenities and the neighborhood. Spend an afternoon playing in the local park and eating at a restaurant in the area. You can also drive by their new school to help ease any fears about that part of the transition.
If you are moving to a new city, visiting in person might be a challenge. Why not give your kids a virtual tour? Ask them to help you search online for pictures of the new town that you’ll be living in. Look up fun things to do and check out Web sites for the zoo, children’s museum, amusement parks or other attractions. Make a list of things you want to try when you get to your new home.
If you can explore and talk about your new hometown ahead of time, your kids will likely be more excited about the move and might actually look forward to it.
Make their goodbyes great
No matter how prepared you are for a big move, you still have to say goodbye to your home, your friends and your favorite places. Instead of downplaying your goodbyes, make them a big deal. Host a going-away party for your kids and let them help with the guest list. Create a special memory book where friends can write a goodbye note and their address, so it’s easy to keep in touch. In addition to a big party, you could also hold a cozy family dinner where you do a tour of your old house and talk about the great memories you had while you lived there. Commemorating your past experiences will help make moving easier on your kids because they will have time to process the change and say farewell in a fun way.
It’s not easy to know how to make moving easier for your family, but any effort you make to keep everyone involved and excited will make the transition better for both kids and parents!
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