Roommate Search: How to Find Your Roommate Soul Mate

The roommate relationship is like no other. Sharing a living space means letting all of your habits and quirks hang out– you won’t be able to hide forever that you shower less than is typically considered “normal” or that you have a serious aversion to doing the dishes.

Roommate Search How to Find Your Roommate Soul Mate

That’s why it’s so important during a roommate search to look for someone whose quirks you can live with, who doesn’t mind your oddities, and who you in general get along with like two peas in your own apartment pod: a roommate soul​ mate, if you will.

But how do you find someone with that type of compatibility? Here are a few tips:

Know Yourself

The first step in finding your roommate soul​ mate is knowing your own habits and personality traits, so that you can find someone who can live with them (within reason – nobody should be expected to live with someone who’s unwilling to ever clean the toilet, for instance).

It’s always a simpler process to find compatible roommates after already having lived with another person, because you’ll know better what your own strengths and weaknesses are. But if you haven’t lived with anyone before, don’t worry. Look for someone who’s relatively tidy, responsible, and shares similar interests.

Don’t Leave it to the Last Minute

Looking for a new roommate? Start your hunt as soon as you can. When you leave a roommate search until the last minute you’re more likely to settle for someone who seems OK rather than find somebody who’s truly compatible with you.

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That’s how people often end up in less-than-satisfying scenarios with people they don’t get along with at all.

Be Even Warier With Friends

If you have a friend or sibling who you love hanging out with, it can be tempting to move in with them rather than live with a stranger. Remember that a great friend does not always (or even often) make a great roommate.

Tread carefully, and really delve into your personalities, habits, and other compatibility issues before making a big commitment.

Meet in Person

You’ll definitely want to meet any potential roommates in person (or at least over Skype if that’s not possible). You wouldn’t agree to marry a guy after only messaging him online, would you? That’s because you can’t know if there’s in-person chemistry or compatibility just by reading a message or email.

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If you’ve given yourself plenty of time for your roommate search, you may want to meet candidates in person a couple of times- invite people over for an interview, then grab coffee together a few days later. You’ll be able to see how the roommate chemistry is and learn more about his or her communication skills.

Talk About Your Interests

Sure, things like tidiness, financial habits, and lifestyles are hugely important parts of compatibility, but interests matter too. If one of you hates reality TV and the other can’t go a week without “Say Yes to the Dress” or “The X Factor,” you may find yourselves at odds.

There’s something to be said for opposites attracting, but it’s a good idea to find somebody with at least a few common interests.

Find Your Tidiness Twin

One of the most common reasons roommates fight is because they don’t have the same cleanliness habits or expectations. A dish soaking in the sink for a couple of days may not bother one person, while someone else could consider it really gross.

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Look for someone who shares your views on cleanliness, whether it’s trying to keep things relatively neat in common areas or needing things to be sparkling clean at all times.

Walk a Week in His or Her Shoes

Speaking of lifestyle, you and your prospective roommate candidates should both be very upfront about yours. A great way to do this? Share a typical week in your lives.

Talk about work hours, weekday rituals, and what you’re usually up to on Fridays and Saturdays. If a candidate has an opposite schedule to yours or would rather party on Tuesday than be in bed by 10 p.m. like you, you may need to consider someone else.

Be Realistic

Even married couples fight sometimes– it’s just part of having a relationship with another person, and it’s likely to happen more when you live with somebody.

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Remember that no matter who you find, you’ll still have to flex your compromise and communication muscles. If you aren’t willing to compromise about small things, you may be better off living on your own.

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Don’t Date Your Roommate!

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It’ll start out innocently enough. Two cash strapped young adults – male and female – decide to co-sign a lease together in an effort to save money on rent and utilities.

Then something begins to happen. You see each other every day and after a while, the mutual attraction can no longer be denied. You started out as roommates, but it has quickly become much more.

In the beginning, it’s nice to have someone to come home to after a long day. No expensive cab or train rides can keep you from seeing one another. Playing house is fun for a while – cooking for each other, binging on Netflix while cuddled on the sofa. It really is the best time ever.

But problems start to arise when you’re forced to be in the presence of your roommate/significant other 24/7. There’s no escape. Arguments about laundry and dirty dishes become commonplace – issues that typically only arise in long-term relationships. The union accelerates at an unnatural speed, which means that the chances of it ending well are slim to none.

So, given all of this, is dating your roommate worth it – even if it means saving big bucks every month?

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Privacy Please: 5 Nice Ways to Kick Out Your Roommate on Valentine’s Day

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As Valentine’s Day approaches, you’ll surely hear more contempt for the day – how it’s overly commercialized and actually has nothing to do with love. Scorned hearts will go on and on about how it’s really all about raking in more money for major corporations. Some even refer to it as the ultimate “Hallmark Holiday.” Perhaps they’re just bitter because they won’t be receiving a giant teddy bear and a generic card filled with outsourced emotions.

Nope. Sappy love songs, heart-shaped chocolates and overpriced grocery store roses will not sweep them off their feet this year.

But when cupid’s got a hold on you, there’s no better time to show your affection than on Valentine’s Day. Getting quality time in with your better half is a must. But how do you approach the most romantic day of the year when your super single roommate thinks that cupid is stupid?

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When You Move, Do You Take Your Roommate With You?

Is your potential new apartment the perfect size ... for you alone? If so, you may need to live on your own instead of keeping your roommate.

Is your potential new apartment the perfect size … for you alone? If so, you may need to live on your own instead of keeping your roommate.

Picture this: You’ve fallen hopelessly in love … with the perfect new apartment. It’s just your style, it’s close to your school or workplace, your current lease is ending anyway, and best of all, it’s in your price range. In short, you like it, so you want to put a ring on it (and by “put a ring on it,” we mean “sign a lease.”)

Oh, but it’s not that simple! What about … dun dun duuunnn … your roommate? If you share your home with someone else, you’re going to have to take him or her into consideration if you want to move. And the big decision you have to make is: Do you move alone, or do you take your roomie with you?

It’s a tough one, but here are a few questions you need to ask yourself to help you make that choice.

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Furniture Feud: 7 Ways to Divide Your Things After a Breakup

Furniture Feud: 7 Ways to Divide Your Things After a BreakupOnce a happy relationship goes sour, the hassle of moving out and moving on becomes the focus. When two lives (and sets of belongings) come together, how do you go about splitting everything up? With judges, lawyers and pre-nups, the lines are clearly drawn for married folks, but what about couples that have lived together without walking down the aisle?

The whole situation is a catch-22. On one hand, you don’t want to transfer bad karma to your new place with a bunch of things that remind you of your ex. But at the same token, you probably can’t afford to buy all new stuff.

So, what’s a brokenhearted guy or girl to do?

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He’s Hot… She’s Cold: How To Compromise Your Apartment Temperature

what temperature to keep apartmentAre you guilty of turning the thermostat up or down when your partner isn’t looking? Don’t be ashamed, lots of us are guilty of this apartment/relationship sin. And the deception is sure to increase as winter approaches.

Much like men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it’s been said that men are always hot while the ladies tend to be cold. But how does this gender disparity bode for the living quarters when both disagree on the temperature?

Adjusting the thermostat every hour is the last thing you want to do. Trust us – that heating bill will skyrocket! Some might even suggest separate beds or separate rooms – gasp! So, what can the two of you do to remain comfortable and warm (or cool) this season?

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5 Major Signs You’re Not Ready to Move In Together

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Are you really ready to take that step and move in with your significant other? Read on to find out if it’s really the right move for you!

After dating someone for a while, the question of moving in together is bound to come up. At first, it seems like a logical idea. After all, why pay for two apartments when you’re spending all your time together anyway?

But just because it seems to make financial sense doesn’t make it an all-around good decision. There are lots of other factors that need to be fleshed out if moving in together is a hot topic of conversation between love birds.

Are you really ready to move in with your boo? Here are some signs that you should probably think twice before planning an elaborate his and her living space.

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Shake Up Your Valentine’s Day Routine

Valentine’s Day is rolling around again, and, for some, hopes are high. For others, the active word might be “terror.”

Shake Up Your Valentine's Day Routine

If you’ve fallen out of love with Valentine’s Day and its all-too-typical routine, try an alternative this year and see how your sweetie responds. Take control and celebrate February 14th the way you want with one of these ideas that just might be worthy of the day.

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How to Create a Happy Home

How to Create a Happy Home

As the days become shorter and nights grow longer, you may yearn for more sunshine in your apartment. Though you can’t control the weather, you can add happiness and warmth to your space by channeling all things feel-good and smile-inducing. Ward off Seasonal Affective Disorder before it begins by adding a few of the cheery objects or actions below into your home.

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